When I was 11 years old, my mother silently snuck into my bedroom. Under the cover of midnight, she sat cross-legged at the end of my bed and proceeded to give me The Talk, although it was more of a whisper. Instead of focusing on the anatomy of sex — the biological prophecies by which, some say, our bodies were made to meld into one — my mother chose to emphasize pleasure. She spoke about the importance of passion: pursuing it, asking for it and finding it within yourself. Society has a tendency to perpetuate this idea that the older a woman grows, the more she yearns for the beauty of her youth.
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Here's What 47 Women on Sex Over the Age of 50
You can resume sexual activity at any age, as long as you're willing to invest a little time and patience. With age, the vagina and vaginal opening often become smaller and the vaginal lining becomes thinner — especially when estrogen levels are low. As a result, it can take longer for the vagina to swell and lubricate during sexual arousal. Together these changes can make sex painful. In addition, keep in mind the need to practice safe sex — especially with a new partner. There's no age limit for sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Use a condom every time you have sex, and discuss testing for sexually transmitted infections with your partner.
I Asked a Bunch of Women Over 50 About Their Sex Lives
All those impulses and desires, for physical touch, for sex, for companionship, they're all the same. Research shows many women in their 60s, 70s and 80s have more time for sex than ever before. Credit: Getty images.
Women over age 50 are having sex — and developing STIs — at a higher rate than commonly believed. The notion that women lose interest in sexual activity after menopause has collapsed under scientific scrutiny. Of those who were dissatisfied, more than half said they would prefer having sex more often. Many smaller studies corroborate the WHI results.